Thursday, December 1, 2011

Love Affairs


Love affairs
       Oblivious to the harsh realities of life there is a brood of people who live in their own dream world.. The young blood of the societies. Sometimes I feel an affair is more to escape from the reality. How else would you explain that irrespective of if a guy has a job, good education or belongs to a good family, he has a girlfriend?
        There are groups of boys who spend the better half of their day in playgrounds where they sit and check out girls who cross the ground. Whistling or often commenting on them. If she looks and smiles they start the chase. The next level is waiting in her galli. Talking to her in indirect ways. Pataoing her friend to help. Going into her society as somebody else’s friend.  Flattering her with compliments. Making jeene marne ki kasme.. It is all sweet and has a fantasy effect.
        If the girl is from the same society then kya kehna! Just turn on the music on full volume and play the song you want her to hear. Right from “kabhi aana tu meri gali” to “kehna hai kehna hai aaj tujhse kehna hai”.  If the guy is more dabbang he might sing it as she passes by. 
Some make the few trees outside the societies as letter boxes. Keep the letters in the crevices of the barks!
This brood is the topic of hot gupshup of the society. The juicy gossip of whose daughter  ran away with whom can keep the people occupied for many days together!
       The truth is that some of these pairs are so grossly mismatched that it is foolish to pursue such affairs. Maybe the thrill of doing the forbidden or the love and attention they get for sometime is all they want. Many of the youngsters don't work on studies and are  content day dreaming.. 
Ofcourse I m looking at it from a third person's view and I have no right to judge anyone.

  Valentine’s day herogiri
        There was one family in the society which had 5 grown up boys, mother, father and grandmother all packed in the small house. The boys were the romeos of our galli.
One fine Valentine day, the eldest of them came home with a girl. Garlands in their neck, girl's maang filled with sindoor. The girl had eloped. What could the boy’s family do?  They accepted them with aarti ki thaali and a reception happened later.
            This girl was from a good family and  lived in an apartment. Her father had a shop. She was living comfortably. Love is blind, deaf and even mental in some cases. She married this guy who worked in a band (not the rock band, that band which plays in weddings and ganpati festivals!!!) and had come to live in a house filled with 4 men other than her husband and 3 elders. 
            Within a year all the herogiri and filminess went down the drain and reality sinked in. It was tough but the girl was determined to make it work. She cared for the inlaws and her brother-in-laws. The guy she married to, is still irresponsible and sometimes tries hitting on other girls ( Don’t know if she knows that). Now they both have a son. I heard she cooks for others to add some income to the family.
            Some years later, another of the brothers tried repeating the stunt. Seriously one has to be completely out of mind to think of adding another member into a house filled with 10 members ! This new girl might have entered with rosy glassed dreams and then  ran away the moment she discovered the harsh truth..  Yes, not all have the strength to put up with such situations.. Or maybe the first girl didn’t have the courage to back out of the marriage..
 Each story is a story of struggle and hard decisions..



16 comments:

vijayant said...

Hi Mathali,
ur writing is absolutely true one, and same one I had earlier. I will write u in details that my first love story. The girl was my neighbour .....

Atrocious Scribblings said...

I`ve said this a gazillion times before but as crazy as it sounds - People never cease to amaze me.

Kunal said...

To define Love in any way..is out of the question...Bollywood gives us definitions..and we seem to believe them all...no one knows what Love is...though everyone seems to be in Love at one time or another...

Decisions taken at the spur of the moment..can go either ways...if it works...we say...we just followed our heart...etc ....and if not...we say..at least we tried...

What is more important...following your heart...or regretting later...no one knows...

May be, some thinking was required in this particular situation..which you described....

either way..I wish them good luck.. :)

maithili said...

@Vijayant : Thank you.. What I did write was what I had seen. Your love story seems to be on the same lines..

@ Atrocious Scribbler : True that! People will never fail to amuse us :) There is lots that I learnt about human behavior and people there :)

@ Kunal : Love is never defined.. It is different for different people.. But for living a life together we need to be judgemental..
Decisions taken on the spur of the moment can be hazardous..
Passion and love are all good in their own place but for living you need a job, education or some talent that you will take forward. Here sadly none of it was done.. All I can say is if something is destined to happen, it will happen..

Paanipuri Lover said...

Badhiya ekdum! I first thought that the eldest Daughte-in-law was strong, but then as you said, maybe, weak to back out!
True story! Your stories make me ponder,really! <3 :D

Keirthana said...

Love is strange and yeah people go mental enough to do stuff like that. The eldest DIL, though weak to back out might really wanted to work out things, however hopeless they were. And I am happy that she tried without giving up instantly. On the other hand, I would want such girls to take in the reality and surroundings before they just run off, blinded by love.

chirag said...

ishq ki sacchai kafi alag hain
jo dikhta hain hota hain
isi topic par maine bhi ek post likhi thi
http://iamhereonlyforu.blogspot.com/2011/09/blog-post_27.html

maithili said...

@Paanipuri Lover : I feel the first daughter in law was stupid enough to blindly run off with a man she had no security with. Waapas kya shakal leke jaati.. Plus she hadn't completed her education to get into a good job.. So more than courage it was majboori for her..

@ Keirthana : It is difficult to judge the right and wrong when the first step itself was miscalculated.. She ran off without thinking of her security.. Whatever next she would have done, would have gone against her.. Though I do respect her for the care she has taken of the house..

@ sahi kaha.. ishq dikhta hai utna seedha nahi hai.. practical hona bhi zaroori hai..

Rahul Bhatia said...

Well written.. The reality and fantasy are two different worlds and they rarely have a common meeting point!

maithili said...

@Rahul Bhatia : Yes, reality and fantasy are very different.. Somewhere I think it is just an attempt to escape reality that people get into such relations.. A relation comes with lot of responsibility and people fail to see that

Bhargavi said...

All hero-giri peters out once the initial flush of excitement and novelty wanes.. that said, sometimes blind and illogical love also works. A friend of mine eloped while in college with a mechanic and is extremely happy that she made the decision..

phatichar said...

totally agree...what a wonderful post. :)

Purba said...

We like to lead a blinkered existence and view reality as a mere irritant.

But it was amusing to read a young girl writing about youngsters of today. The girl is mature beyond her years - thank God for that :)

maithili said...

@Phatichar : Thank you and welcome here :))

@Purba: well said.. It is because of the reality I have seen before hand :)

संजय भास्कर said...

beautiflly written

Mithlash said...

You eleborated everything nicely but at the climax of your post I got confused, whether the first girl was right or the 2nd one. Overall nice thoughts and nice observation. Keep it up:)