Love Affairs

Love affairs

       Oblivious to the harsh realities of life there is a brood of people who live in their own dream world.. The young blood of the societies. Sometimes I feel an affair is more to escape from the reality. How else would you explain that irrespective of if a guy has a job, good education or belongs to a good family, he has a girlfriend?

        There are groups of boys who spend the better half of their day in playgrounds where they sit and check out girls who cross the ground. Whistling or often commenting on them. If she looks and smiles they start the chase. The next level is waiting in her galli. Talking to her in indirect ways. Pataoing her friend to help. Going into her society as somebody else’s friend.  Flattering her with compliments. Making jeene marne ki kasme.. It is all sweet and has a fantasy effect.

        If the girl is from the same society then kya kehna! Just turn on the music on full volume and play the song you want her to hear. Right from “kabhi aana tu meri gali” to “kehna hai kehna hai aaj tujhse kehna hai”.  If the guy is more dabbang he might sing it as she passes by. 

Some make the few trees outside the societies as letter boxes. Keep the letters in the crevices of the barks!

This brood is the topic of hot gupshup of the society. The juicy gossip of whose daughter  ran away with whom can keep the people occupied for many days together!

       The truth is that some of these pairs are so grossly mismatched that it is foolish to pursue such affairs. Maybe the thrill of doing the forbidden or the love and attention they get for sometime is all they want. Many of the youngsters don't work on studies and are  content day dreaming.. 

Ofcourse I m looking at it from a third person's view and I have no right to judge anyone.

  Valentine’s day herogiri

        There was one family in the society which had 5 grown up boys, mother, father and grandmother all packed in the small house. The boys were the romeos of our galli.

One fine Valentine day, the eldest of them came home with a girl. Garlands in their neck, girl's maang filled with sindoor. The girl had eloped. What could the boy’s family do?  They accepted them with aarti ki thaali and a reception happened later.

            This girl was from a good family and  lived in an apartment. Her father had a shop. She was living comfortably. Love is blind, deaf and even mental in some cases. She married this guy who worked in a band (not the rock band, that band which plays in weddings and ganpati festivals!!!) and had come to live in a house filled with 4 men other than her husband and 3 elders. 

            Within a year all the herogiri and filminess went down the drain and reality sinked in. It was tough but the girl was determined to make it work. She cared for the inlaws and her brother-in-laws. The guy she married to, is still irresponsible and sometimes tries hitting on other girls ( Don’t know if she knows that). Now they both have a son. I heard she cooks for others to add some income to the family.

            Some years later, another of the brothers tried repeating the stunt. Seriously one has to be completely out of mind to think of adding another member into a house filled with 10 members ! This new girl might have entered with rosy glassed dreams and then  ran away the moment she discovered the harsh truth..  Yes, not all have the strength to put up with such situations.. Or maybe the first girl didn’t have the courage to back out of the marriage..

 Each story is a story of struggle and hard decisions..